Thursday, December 31, 2009

Happy New Year!

One thing about getting older is that you stop going out for New Year's Eve. Part of the reason, in my case, is because I have a small child, but also I just don't really like being in crowds of drunken people (never have) and now, at 30 years old, it's socially acceptable to stay home.

So, the hubby, the kid, and I are all spending a quiet evening at home. The kid just went down to bed and the time is now 8:04 pm. We bought a bottle of prosecco, there is a Twilight Zone Marathon on, and we'll probably jump on Stickam to hang out with some of our virtual friends. Nerdy? Yes. Enjoyable? Sure thing!

With the new year upon us, all I see/hear are ads for weight loss solutions. Why do so many people choose the new year to begin a weight loss regime? Do you think it's because we've all over-indulged at Christmas? Maybe partly, for a small fraction of the population. Seeing the amount of Americans who are overweight, it would seem that the answer has more to do with these diet companies realizing that the beginning of January is when everyone still has their resolutions intact.

Sad as it may be, the commercials have been getting to me. Maybe I could use to lose a few pounds...just five or so. I hate that I even think like that, because I am at a healthy weight, and I really don't want to let Hollywood ideals lead me to feeling bad about myself, but it's hard to resist. After Brittany Murphy's recent untimely death, I have been valuing my health more and more. I know that the autopsy results are not yet in, but it seems to me, even if she did die of "natural causes", it is abundantly clear that she was not a healthy person. Look at the photos of her from early December:



Yikes! Perhaps my resolution should just be never to look like that. I loved the girl, she was very funny, cute, and talented--especially as a singer--but it makes me sad to see what she had become. Is this what women should strive to look like? I seriously hope not.

Anyway, I'll probably just lay off of the holiday foods and be fine. What else would I like to do this year? Oh! Well, maybe not this year, but sometime in the near future I'd like to go back to school and take some creative writing courses and possibly photography classes. I've been thinking about it, and photography and writing are definitely two things I would absolutely love to make a living at one day. In fact, I will say right here and now, New Year's Eve 2009, I will one day be a paid writer and/or photographer. There. That's my resolution!

Now I will stop ignoring the hubby and go spend the rest of 2009 with him. See you in 2010!

Monday, December 28, 2009

Just one.

The stomach flu hit me and the hubby yesterday, and as expected, it sucked big time. We were hoping to get out of the house to do some grocery shopping and see a movie, but needless to say that did not happen. The kid was VERY good, however, entertaining himself, and even helping out a little bit. I'm so proud of him.

He's been driving us a little crazy, asking us to play with him and his new toys, but I suppose that's the price we pay for deciding to only have one child. All day long, he guilt-trips us with cries of "Don't you wanna play with me, mom? Don't you wanna play with me?" to which we generally relent because he sounds so darn pitiful.

Case in point:



Do I wanna play with your castle? Of COURSE I do! I'm not made of stone! Poor li'l guy. Of course, if it weren't for us having
only one child, Santa may not have even been able to afford that castle.

People are always saying, "He needs a playmate!", meaning "You need to have another kid!". I get it--I mean, I had two sisters growing up, and we always played together--but I don't really want to have another one. One child is expensive enough, and he does have playmates (neighbors, cousins, etc.) so I don't really think he lacks that interaction. Also, even though I'm sure two would play together well, they would also fight: do I want to be breaking up toddler fights? Not really. My sisters beat up on me when I was a kid, and all I ever wanted was to be an only-child. Maybe that's the reason for my decision?

I have other reasons, too, all of which are valid:

- I'm a worrier. What if I have a second kid and he/she has a birth defect or some terrible disease? We got one healthy, intelligent child, I'm not pressing my luck.

- The world is over-populated as it is. I know that one's a cliche, but it is true. If we want another kid, we'll just adopt one. There are lots of kids out there in need of families.

- We want to travel. Extensively. I know that you can travel with two or three kids, but who really wants to? Plane tickets are expensive, and if we're going to Europe, that's definitely something to consider. Again, the arguing thing comes in here, because although it would be nice for him to have a brother or sister to share the experience with, I'm not keen on breaking up fights the whole trip.

- I hated being pregnant. People aren't supposed to say that, but it's true. Sure, there were good parts, magical parts, but mostly I was just ridiculously uncomfortable, nauseous, and unable to breathe or walk. Why put myself through that again?

- I don't want to take care of another newborn. Don't get me wrong--I love babies, but taking care of them when they are new is the most exhausting thing anyone could ever do. The lack of sleep ALONE is enough reason not to do it again. As my stepmother says, the first year of their life, your major responsibility is just to not let them die, which is harder than you may think if you've never had one. So many things could kill them! I'm not up to that amount of stress again, thank you very much.

- I enjoy giving all my attention to one child, and I don't really want to have to split that attention.

I know there are even more reasons, but I don't feel like sitting here all day, so you get the picture. If it sounds like I'm defending my decision, it's because I am--I have to. Do you know how often another mom asks me when I'm having another one? All the time. I almost feel like it's more socially acceptable to have no kids than it is to have only one. It's like they think I'm a horrible mom because I don't want siblings for him.

I feel like I'm jinxing myself by being so adamant that I will not conceive again.
I want to make it clear--this is not to say that I would not have another baby if I got pregnant accidentally, of course I would. Pregnancy would not be my first choice, that's all. And with that disclaimer, I'm going to clean. :)


Saturday, December 26, 2009

The holiday season is almost over....

So, rather than go on and on about how guilty I feel (which I do) about abandoning my blog for so long, I will say a short "I'm sorry" and get started on getting you all up to speed on the happenings of my life lately.

Eileen got her kidney! She took part in the world's largest kidney exchange and her husband donated his in return for hers. So far, they are doing well and she seems to be on the road to a full recovery. Needless to say, I did not have to lose any of my organs for this to happen, which I have mixed feelings on. I suppose I should just be thankful, but I was actually sort of looking forward to helping her out in such a profound way. Oh well.

We have decided to take our house off the market, again. The amount of showings in our area, including our home, has been just pitiful, so the likelihood of selling it right now is very poor. The hubby has decided that the commute isn't all that bad, but the bad news is that now we have to figure out a vehicle situation, because the 1983 BMW will not be a great commuter car for long if we drive it into the ground like that. I'm excited to be staying in our home, but I'm very sad that we won't be getting more storage or a better yard for the kid in the foreseeable future. As I always say, at least we have an affordable home to live in!

Last weekend, we drove to Omaha for the wedding of two dear friends of ours. Although hectic, we had a wonderful time. I was asked to sing in the wedding, and I felt very honored to have obliged. I sang a duet of "Come What May" with an amazing baritone (and consequently an amazing person) named Brian.
The bride also asked me to sing a solo version of "Forever" by the Beach Boys. I was incredibly nervous for weeks before-hand, but the songs were performed without any major mistakes, and I got a lot of very nice compliments after the ceremony. The bride was possibly the most beautiful I've ever seen, with a gorgeous train-length veil and impeccable hair and makeup (not that it would have mattered--she's a knockout anyway).

The best part of the whole wedding weekend was relaxing after the ceremony was over and heading out to the reception. The kid surprised us all with his dancing skills, burning up the dance floor whether he had a partner or not. I've never seen him enjoy himself that much, and the joy and excitement he felt was contagious--it really seemed to spread throughout the entire party. I can't remember a night where I smiled so much. Just a perfect event.

Other than those three items, our lives have just been busy with the normal holiday madness that happens every year around this time. Thanksgiving was spent with my sister, then Christmas celebrations were had early with my side of the family. We were lucky enough to be able to stay home for Christmas this year, which has been really lovely. I made Christmas Dinner of baked glazed ham, homemade mac n cheese, sweet potatoes, and rolls on the Eve, which we all thoroughly enjoyed (and will continue to enjoy for the next week). We have been under a blizzard warning for the past couple of days, beginning on Christmas Eve, and woke up on Christmas morning to a winter wonderland outside!

The kid had a wonderful Christmas, as Santa brought him exactly the toy he asked for when they met at the mall, and his stocking was stuffed to the brim with treats. He must have been a really good boy this year, is all I can say! He has been enjoying his new toys, barely wanting to nap or eat for fear of missing out on playing with them. If the hubby or I take a break from playing, he always says, "Don't you wanna play with me?" Gets us every time, darn it!

Spending Christmas at home meant relaxing more than we normally give ourselves time for, which we have all appreciated so much. I got to take a nap in the middle of the day yesterday! That was the BEST.

After we were all rested up and ready to go, we made the trek over to the home of some friends who invited us for Christmas dinner. Now, maybe this wasn't the smartest thing in the world to have done, considering the blizzard and all, but we were really looking forward to it, so we went anyway.

I'm glad we went! Dinner was tasty, the company was wonderful, and the kid got to spend some quality time with other children. All-in-all, our Christmas was perfect!

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